Tis the season to be….merry, jolly, happy? For this mama, tis the season to be overwhelmed.
With decorating, Christmas shopping, elf on a shelf mischief, travel plans, coordinating day of and Christmas eve, and as a working mom juggling all this in between busy holiday season work schedule it can be too much!
All of this is definitely overwhelming but one thing that I’ve struggled with is whether to let my children believe in Santa Claus and when is an appropriate age to let them stop believing?
There are definitely many extremes to let the children believe or not believe.
I have a friend that has never allowed children to believe in Santa Claus. Her point of view is that she feels that she is lying to her children. She has never allowed or encouraged the belief in Santa Claus. But she has educated her children on not ruining the belief for other children.
On the other end of the spectrum, I have a friend that will do anything to keep her children believing in Santa Claus. From placing cookies out and making sure that Santa has “eaten” them, to making footsteps of ashes leading from the fireplace to the tree. There is nothing she won’t do to continue the belief of Santa Claus.
I’m somewhere in the middle.
I do want my children to believe in Santa Claus. I think it preserves their childhood just a little longer. I equate it to having an imaginary friend. And using Santa for them to behave is definitely a plus!
But what age is an appropriate age to allow them to stop believing. My children are 4 and 8. Recently my oldest has been saying things like “I know Santa is not real”. I personally think that he’s too young to stop believing.
So this is my struggle when to stop believing. I do strongly believe like with any part of parenting, this is a personal decision. And you have to do what works for you. I’ve slowly started having open discussion with my 8-year-old and asking questions like “why do you think Santa is real?” “Why do you think Santa is not real?” “How do you feel?” This to me opens up discussion and lets me know where his mind is and what’s appropriate.
At the end of the day, every child and family is different. You do what’s best for your kids. And if you’re on the believing end – join Corona Moms Blog at their Donuts with Santa event! It’s going to be AMAZING!