Being a surrogate can be an amazing experience for a woman. It’s a selfless act to be able to give a couple the gift of a child when they can’t have their own. But like any other pregnancy, women will always have many questions and surrogacy is no different, especially for those on the fence about the subject. Here are some common questions about surrogates many women find themselves asking before continuing with the application process:
What Are The Benefits Of Being A Surrogate?
There are many reasons why women become surrogates. It can stem from their own personal satisfaction of knowing they were able to help another family have children and feeling as if they contributed something good to the world. Others might be more interested in helping their own family given they’ll be financially compensated for the experience. Those that become a surrogate more than once might find solace in being part of the surrogate community after developing close relationships with the families they help.
What Will My Kids Think About Surrogacy?
Many women wonder what their own children will think about the surrogate pregnancy. The great thing about surrogacy is that it’s a learning opportunity the entire family can partake in. No matter how old the children are, kids can learn that they can also be involved in helping a couple’s dream of starting a family come true with the help of their mom. Kids will take their cues from the parents, so if the mother and father are onboard with the surrogacy, then the children will accept it as well. Many surrogates report that their older children become more helpful during the experience and they all share in the overall excitement of the duration of the pregnancy. Young kids might not fully understand that the baby growing in mom’s tummy won’t be their little sister or brother, but there are various ways to help them deal, such as books written on the subject.
How Long Does The Surrogacy Process Take?
There isn’t an exact timeline for the surrogacy process since each timeline is different. The length of the surrogacy journey will depend on a number of factors and will vary.
What Are The Requirements To Be A Surrogate?
In order to be a surrogate, there are a number of certain requirements, which usually entail:
- Being within an age range
- Not smoke or use drugs
- Maintain a healthy BMI
- Have the ability to travel to appointments
- Have had previous healthy pregnancies
- Have a clean criminal record
- Undergo a screening process by the agency
- Pass a mental evaluation
These are just a few requirements, but the entire screening process is meant to ensure that the mother is emotionally and physically ready to become a successful surrogate.
Will The Baby Be Related To Me If I Am A Surrogate?
No, the baby a surrogate carries will not be related to her. The child she is carrying will have no genetic connection, and the woman chosen will be very aware that the child her body is nurturing will not be her own (which is why mental evaluations are done during the screening process). She will go into the entire process already aware that the child she is carrying is for another couple. She is only the gestational carrier and there is no biological tie to the child in the first place.
Will Future Parents Tell Me What To Do As A Surrogate?
Before the surrogate becomes pregnant, legal contracts will be drawn up. This document is very important when undergoing a surrogacy journey and will specify the detailed plan for the pregnancy, delivery and beyond. The future parents will list out various intentions for the surrogate mother and in return, she will be compensated to cover the cost of any extras the parents desire. But all details will be agreed upon before the surrogacy journey begins so that all parties involved understand the specific requirements of the relationship moving forward. These agreements ensure that both the gestational surrogate and the future parents know what is expected from each other so that there are no surprises. Surrogates are not an “employee” of the future parents and they aren’t her supervisors. The relationship must be mutually beneficial for all those involved. A stellar agency will do their best to make sure that parents are matched with surrogates that have specific lifestyles.
What Happens After The Baby Is Delivered In The Surrogacy Process?
The birth of the baby is the most rewarding and exciting part of the surrogate journey for both the future parents and the surrogate mother. The future parents are usually involved in the labor and delivery of the child. There will be a mix of emotions after delivery, such as satisfaction, happiness, pride and excitement. There will always be a special connection with the family and you may choose to maintain an ongoing relationship with the new family if they allow it.
If you’ve been thinking about becoming a surrogate and would like to know more about the process, screening and the journey in general, Extraordinary Conceptions can help guide you along the way. They have helped thousands of people across the world achieve success through surrogacy and egg donation. Education and information is empowering and they strive to provide that to all of their clients, especially with extra support for their surrogate mothers.