Karen Erikson is a mom and a former surrogate, who lives in the Inland Empires (Temecula/Murrieta) and would like others to know what it’s like to become a surrogate.
When I became a mom, I had no idea what I was doing. The first time I held my daughter, I experienced an overwhelming sense of joy. It was like I suddenly had purpose. Honestly, it was a sensation that is so hard to put into words. All the love you have ever experienced in your life suddenly pales in comparison to the love you feel when you look at your baby for the first time.
I became a mom unexpectedly. I had plans, but obviously the universe had other plans for me. I was 19 when I first found out I was expecting my daughter. I had a close friend who had been struggling to conceive, and I remember seeing the pain in her eyes as I told her I was pregnant. She was happy for me, of course, but I couldn’t help but feel her pain that it was so easy for me, but so hard for her. All she wanted to be was a mom.
Looking back, I think that it was her struggle that really inspired me to be the best mom that I could be. Before my daughter came into this world, I wasn’t even sure if I wanted to be a mom. Addi changed everything for me, and being a mom is one of the greatest things I have ever gotten to do with my life. I now have three kids of my own. Ranging in ages from 10 to 18. The joy never went away, I still feel it every time I look at them.
I first thought about being a surrogate when my youngest was just a year old. At this stage in my life, I knew multiple people who struggled with infertility, and I was inspired by each one of them. I began looking into surrogacy, and how I could help others start families. I talked to several agencies and learned about the process, but it wasn’t quite the right time for me.
In 2018, I decided that it was time to look into surrogacy again. I was worried that I was too old, and was very excited to find out that I was still young enough to carry a baby for someone else. I had a friend who had just completed her surrogacy journey, and she shared her story with me. It was inspiring, and I took the first steps by filling out an application with an agency.
I didn’t share with very many people what I was doing, or why, until I was pregnant. I was expecting twins for an amazing couple and wasn’t sure about the reaction I would get from family, friends, and co-workers. When people found out, their first question was always “why?” When people ask me why I decided to become a surrogate, the answer has always been, “being a mom is the greatest thing I have ever done, and I wanted to share that with people who can’t do it on their own.” It’s a simple answer, but really is just the tip of an emotional iceberg that had inspired me to be a surrogate.
In October 2019 I delivered a healthy set of twins. The way I felt when I introduced the babies to their parents was indescribable. I had never seen someone as happy as they were in that moment. The fact that I had helped make them happy, that I had helped them to feel the same joy I did as a parent, made every moment in my surrogacy journey worth it.
Interested in becoming a surrogate or learning more about the process? Extraordinary Conceptions can help guide you along the way. They have helped thousands of people all over the world achieve success through surrogacy and egg donation. Education and information is empowering, and they strive to provide that to all of their clients, especially with extra support for their surrogate mothers. Extraordinary Conceptions can help you decide if surrogacy is right for you and your family. Here are some things you should know when deciding on becoming a surrogate!
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