Tips & Tricks: How To Have More Patience With Distance Learning


“I’m done!” I exclaimed to my husband the other day after a stress morning of distance learning with my oldest 6-year-old son. Although he’s barely in kinder, I dread each morning as we start his homeschooling routine (or should I say “crisis schooling).” I knew right from the start that I’d never be able to be a homeschooling mom; I just don’t have the patience to do it and distance learning is now proving that my initial thoughts were correct.

Besides my kindergartener, I have my preschooler at home learning, too, but he’s not the one I struggle with – it’s his older brother. Sure, he has his days where he doesn’t want to trace his letters or practice his numbers workbooks, but for the most part, my four-year-old is a breeze compared to his sibling. Factor in a rambunctious two-year-old and my mornings are very busy (which only adds to the day’s chaos).

I find myself loosing my mom cool way too often with my oldest as he mouths off, whines or struggles to listen or follow directions in regards to his teacher-assigned worksheets and computer work. I know he’s struggling with his new normal, too, and misses his school friends and teacher, but having to fight him on everything every single school day (we do Monday-Thursday because I NEED those three-day weekends) is becoming too overwhelming for me.

I knew I needed to change things up to get through the rest of the school year (which goes until early June) and came across some helpful tips and tricks on how to have more patience that I thought would be beneficial for other moms (and parents) on the same boat.

1. Know Your Kids. Knowing how each of your school-aged kids learn best will help with distance learning and your nonexistent patience. Try to figure out their learning style, what times during the day are they most well behaved, if certain foods affect their moods and so on will help you save hours of stress trying to have them do school work at times. If they are mood in the mornings, try doing schoolwork in the afternoons. Or if they are moody if they don’t eat, make them breakfast before any schooling happens.

2. Know your own triggers. This is very important and will make all the difference in your patience levels. Figure out what your triggers are and what makes you lose your patience. If you’re not a morning person, move school to a later time. If disorganizations sets you off, have a clean space to work in. Or maybe you are a schedule-type of person? Whatever your triggers are, make it a point to call them out so that you can work around them when schooling your kids.

3. Don’t try to be perfect. There’s this sort of ideal that a homeschooling mom is the perfect portrait of patience. She sits attentively with your kids as she helps them learn. Well, that’s what I always pictured when I thought of homeschooling. Once I threw out those ides of perfection or what a homeschooling mom should look like, I felt less stressed. These unrealistic expectations can cause lots of unneeded stress, so the less you try to be perfect, the less likely you’ll lose it on your kids.

4. Take it one day at a time. Just because your kid has all this work assigned to them doesn’t mean they have to get it all done in a day. Just take it one day at a time. If your kid isn’t responding well to what’s assigned, but it away and save it for a later day or time.

5. Take deep breathes. When you’re starting to feel as if you’re going to lose your sh*t, take a few deep breathes to calm down. This usually works when I’m about to blow it when my son is not following directions or is whining about having to read a passage. If you have to leave the room, do it. You’ll come back more level headed if you do.

6. Don’t forget about you! You know that saying that you can’t pour from an empty cup…? Well, it’s so true and you’ll find yourself thin on patience if you haven’t been taking care of yourself. Get enough sleep, eat well, get some exercise in or simply take some time out for yourself to unwind. Feeling more relaxed will definitely help with your patience levels.

What other techniques are you practicing to have more patience when distance learning stresses you out?

If you need some schooling resources, here’s a huge list! Also, here’s some tips from a homeschooling mom!



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Born and raised in Los Angeles, Kristie moved to Corona six years ago after her husband accepted a position in a neighboring city. Since then, she’s been able to create quite an extraordinary life in this wonderful city she calls home. As a work-from-home mom of three littles (Mason 4, Kingston 3 and sweet baby Juliette 3 months), Kristie is one busy momma! Life is non-stop for this momma, but she wouldn't have it any other way. The UCLA graduate is a writer/journalist/social media and communications coordinator by trade, but a momma and wife 24/7. When she’s not working and has a much-needed break from her kids, she enjoys reading, writing, wine, fitness and living life to her fullest! You can catch up with her everyday life on IG @therealmommychronicles!