Karen Erikson is a mom and a former surrogate, who lives in the Inland Empire (Temecula/Murrieta area) and would like others to know what it’s like to become a surrogate.
In late 2018 I was introduced to the amazing world of surrogacy. I applied with an agency, and was soon matched with a couple that wanted a family but couldn’t do it on their own. In October 2019 I delivered a healthy set of twins, and made their family’s dreams come true. Now I’m making another family’s dreams come true with my second surrogacy journey. How did these amazing families find me? Through something called the surrogate “matching process.”
Once you complete the application process to become a surrogate, you have an online profile that intended parents can view. This profile has information about you, your prior pregnancies, and anything else you’re willing to share with the intended parents. The more information your profile has, the easier it is for your coordinator team to match you. This profile lives in a private database that is controlled by the agency, so you don’t have to worry about it being public knowledge.
When an intended parent is interested in choosing you as their surrogate, the coordinators will reach out to you with a potential match. You get to see the intended parent’s profile, read about why they want to start a family, how long they have been trying and searching for the right surrogate and the like. If you like their profile, the coordinators will schedule a video call so you can ”meet” the intended parents. It’s almost like online dating, if you both like each other then it’s a match!
The matching process can take anywhere from one month to one year. With my first match, I was in the database for a year before I met my wonderful intended parents. With my second match, I was in the database for only a month. Patience is key with matching because you want to make sure that not only are you the right person for your intended parents, but you want to make sure they are the right people for you!
Was I nervous about matching? Yes. I wanted to make sure that the intended parents had the same goals for the outcome of the journey that I did. For me, being a surrogate was a very personal choice. I wanted to be able to have a close relationship with the intended parents during the pregnancy. I’m so lucky that I was matched with parents who wanted the same thing!
How can you improve your chances for a good match? Make sure your profile is filled out completely! It’s more than just your name and medical history. It’s details about who you are as a person, your likes and dislikes, what your hobbies are, and more. There are also pictures on your profile. You should always choose pictures that share who you are as a person. A few solid selfies are great, make sure you smile and that the lighting is great. You can also include pictures of you with your family. Some of my favorite photos to see on a surrogate’s profile are ones where they are enjoying their favorite activities. Do you love traveling? Share pictures of your adventures! Intended parents love seeing who you really are.
The matching process is really just the first of many exciting parts of the surrogacy journey. You can follow along with my surrogacy journey on Instagram: @surro_adventures. My messages are open if you need help with your application to start your own journey, and to answer any surrogate matching process questions that you might have!
Karen is working with Extraordinary Conceptions, which is a So-Cal-based surrogacy agency. If you’re ready to be a surrogate and want to match fairly soon with a family, it’s time to start the surrogacy application process with Extraordinary Conceptions. They provide potential surrogates a wide range of benefits, including top base compensation and so much more! To them, you’re more than just a surrogate, but a member of their surrogate family! Read more about being a surrogate here!